A Happier, Healthier You
Relationships are a complex and wonderful part of each individual’s life. Relationships provide many positive attributes, such as love, friendship, support, partnership, connection, pleasure, comfort and spiritual bonding. However, at times, they can also be a source of distress, frustration and disappointment that can impact our lives significantly. Individuals in a relationship are often faced with issues that overwhelm, confront and are at times difficult to cope with. This can lead to heightened sensitivity to psychological, physical and emotional distress. If an individual finds himself/herself in a relationship with features that may be more negative than positive in nature it is critical that they seek support immediately and take control of the relationship concerns. This is where a trained counsellor may support and nurture the individual's of the relationship to find self-generated pathways to improve the connection with one another leading to a more harmonious flow.
An important note to male members of the relationship. Society imposes an ideal image of what men should do, how they should think, act and feel when it comes to relationships. Many men do not know any other method of addressing a problem in a relationship and tend to dismiss the problem and hope it will go away. I can assure you it will not. It is imperative to seek counselling and work with your partner. The key take-away here is don't let the relationship continue to detach and grow apart by not acknowledging the reality of what is going on in your relationship. Unfortunately many couples do not seek professional support until it is too late. Don't be a statistic!
What causes relationship problems? The common problems that occur within poor relationships are:
1. Poor communications skills
2. Intimacy issues
3. Financial concerns
4. Extra martial affairs
5. Shifting or split in loyalties
6. Poor career/life balance
7. Equality (division of household chores etc...)
8. Individual differences and styles (around parenting)
9. Poor quality of time together
10. Major life intrusions (loss of family member, transition in career, immigration)
What happens in relationship counselling?
Relationship counselling typically involves both parties working together to support each other for the mutual benefit of the relationship. This is achieved by employing any number of counselling techniques, from Cognitive Behavioural and Solution Focused Therapies, always with a solid base of Person Centred Therapy (respect, positive and non-judgemental positive regard as well as emotional validation). Counsellors provide couples with essential tools to support positive thinking styles, increase intimacy and build resilience, whilst resolving differences. However, it must be said that relationships may require a mediator and in times when the relationship is not able to be salvaged, a counsellor may act as an intermediary to provide an amicable separation pathway.
Feeling a bit down lately and nothing seems to lift your spirits? It might be time to seek help from a qualified professional. At Positive Connections Counselling Service, our Individual support helps to develop positive attitudes towards life’s most complex circumstances.
Supporting a loved one through a difficult time, such as depression. For both men and ladies, it can be a difficult first step, however, once you pick up the phone and make an appointment you will have already made a positive change in your life. We have female staff that can support you and your needs.Our organisation has assisted and supported many men and women to find a new way of living.
If you are currently experiencing concerns within your family, are undergoing a transition or lack direction, get in touch with us so we can phone you to discuss how best we can support your needs.